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Forgiveness…

So my last blog post has gone pretty gang busters.  I’ve had so much feedback, so much praise, so much thanks for it.  I have also received some backlash too, and because of that, there was a moment I was actually considering taking it down.  Some of the feedback was that it was too one sided, it didn’t really explain how cheaters feel and why they do what they do.  It didn’t explain the other persons side of how the marriage broke down.  So I took some time to really think about all of those opinions.  To hear how people felt and to really digest their thoughts and feelings.  Here’s something you need to know though, my ex was the first one to read it.  He read it before it was even published, he told me to post it.  Is he upset that our dirty laundry is aired for the world to see? maybe a little bit, but he understands this is my form of therapy.  Writing brings me peace, in my head and in my heart.  Being able to connect with people through my words is the most incredible feeling in the world.  Hearing other peoples stories and telling them “You’re going to be ok”, is helping to heal my own heart.  So at the end of the day I decided my post about The Other Woman will stay up, it will stay up because in the moment that I wrote it I was so blinded by anger and hurt and heartbreak, that I wrote from a raw place in my heart and soul that I wanted to share.  It will stay up because there were more people who were grateful for that post than there were those who hated it.  It will also stay up because it is me, and it is real, and it is filled with emotion and rage and sadness, and it is also filled with the thoughts and feelings of people who have been where I am.

It will stay up because it is the post that is going to be the lead in to a very amazing story.  The story of my new journey through life,  a story of loss, a story of letting go, the story of heartbreak, a story of forgiveness, and the story of truly finding my happy.

So let’s have a chat today about forgiveness.  Let’s really dive into that word forgiveness…the dictionary meaning of the word forgiveness is this :

forgive

[fer-giv]

verb (used with object), forgave, forgiven, forgiving.

1. to grant pardon for or remission of (an offense, debt, etc.); absolve.

2. to give up all claim on account of; remit (a debt, obligation, etc.).

3. to grant pardon to (a person).

4. to cease to feel resentment against:

to forgive one’s enemies.

5. to cancel an indebtedness or liability of:

to forgive the interest owed on a loan.

verb (used without object), forgave, forgiven, forgiving.

6. to pardon an offense or an offender.

So that’s the technical meaning of the word forgiveness, but what does the word actually mean to you?  For me the word means letting go, it means sending all the hurt inflicted on me by another person away. Why? because I can’t hold onto it anymore.  Anger, hurt and sadness only festers in your heart, it makes it black and hard and cold.

I think when we choose to forgive those who have hurt us, we empower ourselves to be greater human beings.  Holding on only keeps you stuck in your pain, it keeps you stuck in your anger, it keeps you stuck in that tornado shit storm.  Do you really want to stay there?  How does it make you feel when you relive the hurt over and over and over again? Not good at all.  Forgiveness doesn’t have to mean forgetting either.  I will hold onto the lessons from this, because I was meant to learn them.  I will hold onto some of the feelings as a reminder of where I have come from.  I will hold onto to some of the pain, because in a way the pain is going to make my new life really amazing.  We can’t stuff our feelings and emotions, we have to make sure we feel everything and learn the lessons from the feelings.

When I get quiet with myself and really dig into how I feel and the thoughts I think I come back to forgiveness every time.

I forgive him, not because he asked me to, not because he deserves it, not even because I’ve been told to.  I forgive him because I am letting go.  I forgive him for making a serious error in judgement.  I forgive him for being a human being that felt like it was his only option.  I forgive him for everything.  I forgive him, because I need to, my heart needs me to.  I forgive him because I need to set myself free.

I also forgive myself, for not seeing the signs, for not being my best self, for all the mistakes I made in our relationship, for going crazy.  I forgive myself for the horrible things I thought and said out loud about myself and about him.  I forgive my head, my heart, and my soul for some choices we made together.  They weren’t good choices at the time, but they brought about valuable lessons.  I forgive myself and you should too.

Let go of the pain, the hurt, and the sadness. Breathe in peace, acceptance, hope and love.  You’re surrounded by all of those things daily, you just need to see them and breathe them in.

Forgive

Let go

Move forward

No more looking back.

XOXO

M

The Other Woman…

Going through a break up is hard…you feel bipolar at times.  You try and justify, you investigate and dig to find a reason, you make up stories in your head about where you went wrong.  You blame yourself and only yourself and say sorry a million times.  You beg for them to come back, you get really fucking angry and scream and tell them to go away forever.

Then you learn the truth…the truth that your gut was telling you all along, the truth that he lied over and over and over again.  You get stuck right in the middle of a rabbit hole and there’s no way up and there’s no way down and your world begins to spin out of control.  You did so much digging, you were lied to so many times, that you knew there had to be more, so you dig and dig just to find the answer you never wanted to find…There is another woman.

That single truth bomb hurts worse than the breakup, it hurts worse than the words “I just don’t love you anymore”, it cuts so deep that the scar of it will never ever fade.  It’s like a tattoo permanently etched on your heart.  I think this truth hurts the most because you feel like you never had a fucking chance in hell.  The Other Woman came in and gave him things you didn’t, that’s why she is The Other Woman.  Then comes the knowledge that she has no idea she is The Other Woman.  You want to hate her with every fibre of your being for breaking up your family, and stealing your man, and now you can’t.  Well maybe you can, I can’t.  My heart is not only broken for me, it is broken for her.  We were both lied to and deceived and sent down this fucking rabbit hole by the same man.  Then comes the kicker….He has to tell her the truth to her face…all the while you got nothing but lies and deceit and had to learn the truth on your own.  You find yourself hating her even more because she gets so much more from him than you did.

People have told me to stop asking him questions, stop digging for answers, ‘just stop, you’re only hurting yourself more and more’.  Maybe they are right, but for me I needed the whole fucking truth.  Every word of it.  Now that I have it, I’m not sure I’ll ever survive this rabbit hole.  It spins deeper and deeper out of control, and I have been second guessing my whole life the last week.

So I sit here today writing out this deep, hurting truth and baring my whole soul because people need to hear this story.  They need to hear my story, and I need to tell it.  People are going through what I am going through and they need to know their thoughts and feelings are ok, and justified, and they have to know it will get better…one day.  This is only my version of my story, so when I speak about men as cheaters, know that I mean all cheaters, and when I speak about the shitty friend, I mean human beings in general.  Take from my story what you will, but know that it is only my story, and I hope that it can help just one person in this world.

Men, we need to have a chat about this cheating thing.  Let me tell you something right now, the grass isn’t greener, it just looks greener.  You need to water your own damn lawn guys!!! If your wife isn’t giving you something you need, use your voice and fucking tell her.  If you need to go back to marriage counselling, GO!  If she’s not listening then tell her in a different way, change your tone, change your words, change something!!!  Above all else, ask her what she needs too.  It’s not all about you, perhaps you aren’t getting what you need because she isn’t getting what she needs.  Don’t tell the Other Woman all the things your wife never gave you….what the fuck does she care?  She doesn’t!  She cares about herself, her problems, her baggage…not your wife’s.  If you’re going to go ahead and act on the ultimate betrayal of cheating you fucking tell The Other Woman, you give her the option to decide if she is also a shitty human being without a heart, or if you have to bugger off and get back to your wife, or even just get your own life together first.  When you take the choice away from someone to make their own good or bad decision, that is a super shitty thing to do.  You have just stolen someone else’s power.  The power to use their conscious, the power of decision, the power of love and compassion.  One more thing…this thing you think is “LOVE” with The Other Woman, it’s not.  It’s excitement, it’s lust, it’s passion, it’s curiosity, its not the same old boring mundane love you’ve had, it’s someone fresh who doesn’t even know all your quirks, and idiosyncrasies, and annoying habits.  I’m willing to bet she doesn’t even think you poop or fart.  (Yeah I said it!)  It is not LOVE.  Maybe it could be…one day, but right now that is not what it is.  1, 2, 3, maybe even 10 years from now, you will be sitting in the exact same position, repeating the same shitty cycle with The Other Woman, and then along comes ANOTHER WOMAN.  One who offers more excitement, more of what SHE couldn’t and more passion.

Let’s also talk about the douchbag of a friend who only asks “Are you sure about this? You sure you know what you’re doing?”  NO GUYS! NO!!! What kind of friend are you?  Can we all agree that this macho “I don’t wanna say what I’m really thinking, and feeling.  Feelings are for girls” Bullshit needs to stop!  We were created with thoughts, feelings, emotions, morals and values for a REASON! To fucking USE them!!!!  You stand up and you say to your friend “THIS AIN’T RIGHT!”  “Who are you right now!?” “You tell that OTHER WOMAN you are still married” “You go home and leave your wife first” “Stop looking for greener grass”.  That is what real friends do, that is what heart centered human beings do.  That is what people with compassion, and empathy, and a goddamn heart do!  If you are also unhappy in your own marriage DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!!!! Stop being a douchbag, stop looking for greener grass, stop encouraging bad decisions, JUST STOP IT!

Ok Other Woman, I’m coming for you next.  Here’s the deal ladies, if you are away on a vacation in a tropical, romantic destination and you meet some super hunk that seems to be sweeping you off your feet, settle your lady parts down for a minute and use your freaking head.  Do you know this stranger?  Do you believe this stranger? Are you sure?  Why in the world are you jumping into bed with someone on vacation when you have no idea who they are?  Call me crazy, and maybe it’s because I have been in a relationship since I was 17, but this shit is just weird.  What are we thinking ladies?  Is our self esteem, and our self love, and our compassion for our own soul so damaged that we are finding a reason for this to be “love at first sight”?  Or maybe we are just so broken that we are hoping every guy out there is the one to fix it.  Nope, nope he’s not.  You and you alone are the only one who can fix your heart, your soul, and your thoughts.  Let’s stop relying on a man to fix what someone else broke.  Stand up, be strong, know your worth, do the work on yourself and then go searching with a clear head and heart for Mr. Right.  Also, you need to know that even though we feel sorry for you that you were also lied to, we still fucking hate you.  It’s going to take a long ass time to get over this pain, and you will always be “the one” who helped contribute to the deepest heart break we’ve ever had.

To the woman who has been left “holding the bag”, standing in the dust of this epic shit storm,  mind reeling from the lies and the sadness, and the heartbreak and the devastation, this is where WE get to decide our happy ending.  Even though we are left standing here alone we get to pick up the pen and write what happens next.  It’s ok to decide that you would take your man back with open arms if you so choose, and it’s ok to decide that you will never let him back in ever again.  It’s also ok to have zero freaking idea what you want at all right now.  Here is one thing I will tell you though, this wasn’t your fault.  You can take no blame in someone else’s super shitty decision, because you were never given a chance in hell to make it better.  You weren’t given the option to fix what you had broken, you weren’t asked if you could make it work, you were never even a consideration.  You were left behind in that moment and the decision had been made long before you could have done anything.  Do not should all over yourself.  I’ve done it for weeks now.  Don’t listen to them when they say “if you had only told me this, or only done this, this never would have happened”, they are liars.  They are justifying their actions, by making this all your fault.  It’s not our fault, it never was and it never will be.

Some days will be hard, god, yesterday alone I sat on my couch all day and cried and ate ice cream, you know why, cause it felt good at the time.  I looked pathetic, I looked lost, I looked lonely, and I was very much all of those things, but today….oh today I am writing this blog, I am giving myself a whole lotta self love, and I am being kind to my heart.  Tomorrow might still be a great day, but come the weekend I may be a puddle again…it’s an uphill battle when you are going through a breakup, but it’s a battle that makes us stronger, and makes our heart more open, and helps us see the kind of future we wish to create for ourselves.  Today is new day, today is a better day, today is here and tomorrow is not.  I will not worry about what tomorrow brings TODAY!

XOXO

M

The end is only the beginning…

It’s been a very long time since I have written anything on this blog.  It’s been a long time because my happy was stolen right out from underneath me.  I was blindsided with a cut so deep I just couldn’t stop the bleeding.  It’s taken a long time to be able to write anything about this part of my life because I had no idea how to say the words out to the world.  I think I really wanted it to be a horrible nightmare, one that I would wake up from and it would all be over.  It’s not a nightmare though,  it’s real life, and it’s happening.

I’ve spoken before on my blog about the love of my life, my main squeeze, and my lover for the past 18 years.  The person who stole my heart when I was only 17 year old.  The one person who has stood beside me through every up and every down. My best friend, and sometimes my greatest enemy.  The father of my beautiful boys.  The man who is no longer in love with me,  the man who doesn’t look at me the way I look at him, the man who is leaving me to go find his happy.  Yup that’s what rocked my entire world 2 months ago….

It’s a really humbling and devastating experience to be told you just aren’t the one that’s right anymore.  You’ve done so much and hurt so much that it’s not fixable.  There’s no taking it back, there’s no begging (Oh yes I have begged…pathetic right?), there is no apology that will do, and there is no changing anymore.  Nothing you do can change their mind and make them stay.

You sit and you think about everything you should have done different, everything you should have done for them and you didn’t.  You put yourself down, you really beat yourself up about all the shit you put the other person through.  Here’s what I realized though, he put me through shit at times too, he was never perfect, he had so much growing still to do.  We were not perfect humans, or perfect partners, but through our 18 years we were perfect for each other.  We just aren’t anymore.  There has been growing in some areas and those areas have moved us further apart, they made our differences much more apparent.  Some say opposites attract, some say opposites will never work.  Who’s to say who’s right or wrong about that.

To look at us most would think we were a strange match, and complete opposites.  I see it,  I always did.  He was the Ying to my Yang, the Black to my White, the Dark to my Light.  People thought we were a weird match.  All I know is I still miss our weird love.   I also see though that it wasn’t great for either of us at the end.  It wasn’t really great because neither of us were fully willing to compromise in certain areas, and we began to resent the other for trying to make us change who we were.  I think there are so many things about him that I will forever miss, he has been my one and only for half my life.  It’s not an easy thing to let half of your life and half of your person walk right out the door without looking back.  My heart is still really shattered, I don’t think I have ever endured a pain this intense.  It has made it really hard to breath some days.  Some days I have no idea how I am ever going to do this, and other days I get all feminist and think FUCK YA! I’LL SHOW YOU ASSHOLE!!! (he’s not really an asshole, but somedays I call him that cause swearing and name calling makes me feel better)

At the end of the day I had to sit down and realize that there were a lot of areas I fucked up in.  There are a lot of lessons that can come out of this separation though and If I can share just a fraction of them so that your marriage doesn’t end like mine then that’s what I am going to do. (Always seeing the bright side still, even in the middle of my greatest shit storm….you’re welcome! lol)

Tip #1: Don’t ever stop dating each other.  Go out and do things, a quiet dinner without your kids, a concert, a movie, just a simple drive to talk.  A walk on the beach.  Anything that gives you and your partner each others undivided attention is perfect.

Tip #2: Jogging pants are NOT sexy.  Remember when you used to dress up all the time to go out, or see each other?  Keep doing that.  Throwing on your joggers once you get home is something we all like to do, but let your partner still see that sexy side of you.  Do your hair and makeup on a Saturday and put on your nice clothes even if the only thing you are doing is going grocery shopping.. It shows you still have your own amazing confidence and you still very much love yourself.

Tip #3:  Don’t stop loving yourself.  This to me is the MOST IMPORTANT tip!!!!  I didn’t love myself for a very long time, and no one else can truly love me if I don’t love and respect myself!  Remember who you are always, don’t ever stop being who you are to make your partner happy.  You stay amazingly you and they will love every bit of your craziness.

Tip #4:  Don’t roll your eyes at their feelings, thoughts, or opinions.    This says to your partner  “I don’t really give a shit what you’re saying right now.  Your opinion means nothing and I think it’s stupid”.  That behaviour wears a person down and they begin to shut down completely.  When you see a shut down happening it is truly terrifying.

Tip #5:  Please keep trying.  Don’t give up on each other EVER.  Marriage is work, it truly is, and you can either give up and walk away or you can do the work TOGETHER.  When one partner decides it just isn’t worth the work that’s when the problems creep in.  Marriage is not one sided, it is dual effort, team work.  Don’t ever forget that!

Tip #6:  You don’t have to love all of them.  Remember that there will be things about your partner that drive you nuts, like his snoring, or how he nags about clothes on the floor, or that weird noise he makes when he’s eating.  Just remember the things you adore about your partner, and know that there are things you do that he finds less than endearing too.

Tip #7:  TALK ABOUT EVERYTHING!  Do not hold back your thoughts and feelings.  This goes for any relationship in your life.  Family, friends, marriage.  Be honest and open with everyone.  If something hurts you, tell them.  If something they do makes you feel proud, tell them.  If you just need a hug cause you’re having a rough day, tell someone.

So let’s just get real for a minute here and talk about how all of these tips may not help you at all, you’re marriage is already over and there’s no going back.  You are sitting in the middle of a shit storm just like I am now.  Here’s whats going to happen, you’re going to go through the 7 stages of grief.  Here’s my tip for that:

When you start going through the 7 stages of grief just let it happen.  Let it all happen, it’s going to anyways and you will have no control over it.  Here are the 7 stages:

  • Shock or Disbelief
  • Denial
  • Anger
  • Bargaining
  • Guilt
  • Depression
  • Acceptance and Hope

The first 6 happen over and over and over again…..I’ve gone through 1 through 6 about 100 times in 2 months…and I’ll probably go through them all again 100 more.  The light at the end of the tunnel is #7…it’s coming, I know it is.

The one thing to remember and always tell yourself everyday is YOU ARE GOING TO BE OK!  You really are, and so am I.  I am going to be ok, because I set out on a journey a long time ago to find my happy, and this is just a bump in that road.  I believe this may be the exact bump that will set me on a crash course with my greatest desire, my higher purpose, and my happiest of happy’s. So even though tonight I hit that stage of anger again I know that tomorrow, or next week, or even a month from now I will finally get to acceptance and hope and that my friends is where the magic will happen.

#Findingmyhappy

XOXO

M

A Normal Day….Is there such thing?

Today is just a normal day like any other. Wake up, coffee, coffee, dogs out, coffee……..zzzzzzz……more coffee, breakfast and lunches for the kids, dogs breakfast, do the dishes, get ready for work, coffee, and so on and so on. I love normal days, I love the structure and routine of it, I love how everything goes right. Some days around here are not so normal, those are the days where I loose a little of my happy. They are the hard days. Our youngest son has been having a really rough time since early spring, and we have been trying and working to figure out how we can best support him. He asks things like ‘what is wrong with me?’, ‘why can no one fix me?’, and then came the most terrifying statement of all…’I want to be dead, i just want to kill myself, then no one could bully me, and I wouldn’t get in trouble, and you guys wouldn’t be sad anymore.’ This is the statement that rocked my world and shook me to the core. How can this little 11 year old think this way? what is wrong with him? How can I help him? but most importantly, where did I go wrong? I have failed as a mother! I have days where I am so over the moon happy and content with my life and the paths that I/we have chosen to take, other days….not so much. On the hard days you are left wondering what this life is all about, what’s the point? is there even a point? On the hard days everything seems hard, just getting out of bed seems hard. Those are the days that I struggle to get to the end of, I paste on that fake smile and I tell myself life is AWESOME, and sometimes that actually works really well, but other times it makes the hard days even harder because you know just like everyone else does that you are being fake as fuck.
I will say I believe we have come to a point where the hard days are getting fewer and farther between. We have found some solutions, we have a team of professionals that have our back at every turn with our wee man, and we have each other. Hubby and I have become a stronger team than we have ever been. We have worked very hard on us, because giving up on us was not an option. We have had some bumps along the way, please do not think we are a perfect shiny happy couple, we are so not! We fight, we argue, we disagree, we give each other the silent treatment, we call each other names. We also say we are sorry, we hug and kiss goodnight, we make sure the other one knows we love them even when we don’t like them. We have come leaps and bounds from where we were. We have done this for ourselves and for our boys, because they deserve parents who love each other, they deserve to see healthy love, they deserve so much more than video games and toys. I am actually weirdly thankful for these hard days, I think they have taught me a lot about myself. In the process of this whole thing I have grown into a new person, i’m more enlightened and less disheartened by this. I have been blessed with some new really amazing people in my life, and I have also seen people in my life step into a new role of support for myself and my family. People I never even thought to ask for help.

So here I sit on a normal day like any other, enjoying my coffee, writing this blog and thinking about all the things I have to do this week. I’m also praying it continues to be a totally normal week with no hard days, because sometimes that’s all I can do to get me through the day.

XO

Meags

Finding My Happy

I’ve always been a crazy, annoying, happy girl, bubbly, positive, silver lining, bright side girl.  Sometimes I am a really great faker, sometimes I am so sad, so hurt, so mad, and I stuff it all away and hide it behind a brilliant smile.  I recently took a 1 week vacation away with the love of my life and our 2 incredible friends.  It was a simple Mexico getaway, not something crazy and life changing like climbing Kilimanjaro, lol, but it changed me.  It changed me in ways I never thought a simple vacation could.  I was able to have so much time to think and reflect.  I was able to look at my life and the direction I was headed and make some adjustments.  I was able to be brutally honest with myself, even when It hurt.  I was able to find my happy.

I look over to the left of this blog and I see this description “Isagenix Consultant, Mother, Wife, Entrepreneur”, and I’m wondering why did I only use these words to define me?  I am these things, but I am so much more.  I am a mother first, to 2 incredible boys who try my patience everyday and seconds later have me in stitches laughing.  I am a wife second, to this incredibly wonderful man that swept me off my feet when I was only 17.  We have had some rocky rough times, but at the age of 34 I can say without a doubt that I love him more today than I did 16 years ago!  Thirdly, I am an entrepreneur.  I have been a hairstylist for 16 years and now operate a salon out of my home.  Working for myself is so gratifying, I make my own hours, I take holidays when I want to, and I am present always for my children when they need me.  Lastly, I am partnered with Isagenix.  A health and wellness network marketing company.  I think this company has had a very profound effect on me.  I started out only wanting to use the Isagenix 30 day system because I was fat, unhealthy and feeling generally gross.  What I got was so much more than that.  I kind of tip toed into the idea of Network Marketing because it intrigued me, but it also scared me, mostly because there are so many misconceptions about this business platform.  I fully enjoyed receiving monetary reimbursements for sharing these products with my family and friends. At first my monthly order was free, and then it grew to my order being free and my hydro bill being paid and I thought that was really cool.  As an entrepreneur I can take vacation whenever I want to like I said, but I don’t get paid to do so.  Having a side income truly allows me to take vacation WHENEVER I WANT!  Here’s what else I took away from this company though,  PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT.  I began to find my happy while I found my body.  I began to meet these incredible people, people who challenged me, people who changed me, and people who embraced me and liked me just the way I was.  I started learning how to have a voice, I learned that I was enough.  I began learning what it was I truly want from this life, I began learning it was ok to want more, and I began to learn that I could shape my future and my families future just by helping everyone around me.

I have been growing and changing and learning for 3 years now and everyday something new gives me goosebumps.  What I learned while I was away in Mexico was that is ok to be perfectly imperfect.  It’s ok that I have a potty mouth, seriously….I love the F word.  It handles every single solitary emotion that I feel on an hourly basis lol  It’s ok that I am horribly unorganized, i’m a friggin hot mess ALL THE TIME.  I don’t know if I’m coming or going most of the time lol.  It’s ok that I am a horrible house wife who procrastinates cleaning for watching the Food Network instead (I get roped in by Chopped everyday at least 3 times a day!).  It’s ok that I love hockey and baseball, with a passion, I yell and swear (obviously, please refer up to the potty mouth part of this blog!) and scream at the players like they can hear me lol I drink too much beer when the game gets really amazing, and my husband laughs and leaves the room because he hates sports.  Sometimes he even kicks me out of the house when there is a particularly AMAZING GAME ON TV!!!!!! (IE.  ALDS GAME 5….GO JAYS GO!!!!).  I love to dance like no one is watching, even when everyone is watching…..I just loose myself in music and I feel like me….it’s one place I find my happy every time.  Music soothes my soul and speaks to me! It is also absolutely ok to not give one single solitary fuck about what anyone thinks about me.  I don’t know why this ruled my life for so long….I don’t know why I worried about people talking behind my back.  I don’t know why I cared so much about the opinions of others.  My opinion of me matters, and my husbands opinion matters.  I have 2 children who I need to teach this to….How can I raise these boys to be confident and independent and strong when I am none of those things?  How can I pretend to be someone I am not, while teaching them to “be themselves”?.  I can’t, and that is why it is ok that I am not PERFECT! It is OK that I have faults.  It’s ok that you do too.  Embrace your faults, embrace the good and the bad about yourself.  Learn from it, try to grow from it, but don’t you dare ever try and be someone you are NOT.  That is NOT OK!! That is what I learned from myself, it is ok to be ME.

This blog now serves as a place for me to be me and share all things about Finding my happy at the age of 34.  Mostly it’s turning into that because I really need to stop posting long winded, short stories as my Facebook status’ lol.  #SorryNotSorryFacebookWorld.  So enjoy and remember:  You are AWESOME just the way you are!  Embrace those faults and those attributes baby. xoxo

Vision, clarity, freedom

So today I am stuck in bed because I hurt my knee and can’t walk. As I’m stuck in bed reading, learning, networking, and growing I started thinking about visions, mission statements and goal creating. I have a very clear vision in my head of the people I want to work with, what I want for people and I have the what and the how to achieve it, but I thought I should really write it out!!! So today I share with you the Dream Team job description, & vision!!!!
My vision is to join hands with individuals who can see outside the box, those who don’t fear different. People who’s dreams are HUGE, and those who know the WILL reach them! This team of champions will posses a positive attitude, they will take the lead, and motivate others to do the same. These people will have unwavering belief in themselves and our cause! People who are capable of weathering any storm and any obstacle. Finally these visionaries of a brighter future shall be FUN!!! They will know how to live a life of their dreams and be willing to do the work needed to achieve it!
Personalities/Qualities required:
-rebels
-no fear
-dreamers (BIG ONES)
-acheivers
-positive attitude
-leader
-motivator
-unwavering belief
-inner strength
-visionary
-FUN!!!
We want to challenge you to think outside the traditional box. Forget what you have been taught about the cycle of post-secondary education, debt, debt, 9-5 grind, overtime, overtime, living for Friday & dreading Monday. There is more to life, and there is something bigger. We have a vision to free people from the vicious work cycle. We want to show you a way to reach the dreams you never thought were possible. We want to show you how to NEVER stop dreaming and achieving. Finally we want to assist you in freeing yourself from the pain of stress, debt, physical burdens & living someone else’s dream. The time is now to take charge of YOUR LIFE, and your health! There is something so much bigger than the work, eat, sleep, repeat cycle.
Email me today if this is you and something you can stand behind!!!
meags@meaghanreid.com

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Dream Team Moments

This past week brought so much celebration to my Dream Team, rank advancements and bonuses coming out the ying yang.  I had the opportunity to be with most of my Dream Team this past Saturday at an event in Toronto.  My Dream Team just makes my heart happy.  I love hanging out with this group of ragamuffins, they are some of the coolest, fun loving people I have in my life.  I am one blessed girl to have come across every single one of them.  They touch my life everyday.  I wanted to share a few photos from our amazing day on Saturday.

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Why…?!

So almost 3 weeks ago I started this outrageous project. I started with a huge goal that I wanted to reach at the end, like a light at the end of a tunnel, or a pot of gold at the end of a rainbow. All of the sudden life happened and I became overwhelmed with everything and gave up on my outrageous project. Today I revisited my project, all the notes I wrote about it, and the vision I had, the awesome pot of gold at the end of that ridiculous rainbow. I realized that life is always going to happen, kids get sick, arguments happen with your spouse, & some days you just feel off but you can’t just give up on your dreams because of these things….that is silly and ends up leading you down a path of unhappiness. One of the most influential women in my life told me not long ago that sometimes #SuccessIsChaos, she was right 🙂 So today I sat in front of my notes and decided I had to show myself WHY this project struck my heart in the first place, and WHY I needed to get back to work.
I thought I would share the vision of my project I am working on. Hey, if it’s on the internet for the world to see then I have to be accountable right?!
I have a vision, a dream and a driven passion to free young families from the burden of working themselves to the bone in a job that they have zero passion for. I want to show them there is more to life than work, eat, sleep, repeat. Wouldn’t you like to make it to your child’s kindergarten graduation? How about being present when your tiny toddler takes his or her very first steps, instead of watching it on a video sent by your babysitter after you get home from work? Family vacations don’t have to be put on the back burner because ‘it’s not a good time’ or ‘work is just too busy’.
There is something that is just so much bigger and better than work, eat, sleep, repeat. There is a way to enjoy time freedom, financial freedom, and live your life the way YOU choose.
Today is the day that I take a stand and begin to live my vision, I will no longer work, eat, sleep, repeat. I will build my empire, while watching my children play, grow and enjoy the life of their dreams. I will show them how to dream as big as they can and then I will show them how to achieve every single one of their dreams.
If any of this resonates with you in any way, shape, or form then maybe you should email me and we should be friends. Seriously, you are the sum of the 5 people you spend the most time with and spending time with people who share the same giant vision as me would be AWESOME!!! Imagine the lives we could change and the places we could travel?! That would be a kick ass life. So seriously, don’t be shy, I don’t bite, email me and let’s be friends! 🙂
meags@meaghanreid.com

Being Silly Makes the Day Better

I just wanted to write today about how my morning went.  So most mornings I’m up before the crack of dawn to make lunches for the kids, get the dogs out for a run, enjoy some peaceful meditation and sip on a coffee before the kids wake up!  Today was just like all the rest with that standard routine, except I started to feel really silly as I got in the car to take my 9 year old to school.  It started with waving like a maniac and making silly faces at my friend as we drove away.  While driving, my absolute favourite song (right now) Happy by Pharrell Williams, came on the radio, this just added to my silliness as I belted it out with my son.  We pulled into the parking lot and he wanted to listen to his favourite song, what happened next changed the entire course of how my day was going to be.  We started a car dance party.  Singing, dancing, playing the air saxophone all the while other parents dropping their kids off are looking at us with strange expressions on their faces.  It got me thinking about being silly, and happy, and content, and also not being afraid to be a little weird and have people stare at you.  I’m sure this dance party set the tone for my son to have the best possible day today, I know I am having an AWESOME day.  The silliness has continued with me and my excitement and silliness is infecting everyone around me.  So if you woke up on the wrong side of the bed today, or if someone cut you off on your way to work, you hit every red light, you spilt your precious coffee, whatever may have happened here’s what you need to do.  STOP WHAT YOU’RE DOING RIGHT NOW, turn up the music and dance your little heart out!! Dance all those negative, crappy, angry, frustrated feelings right out of your body!!!!  You’ll feel better, I know you will….I leave you with 24 hours of Happy to get you moving and get you smiling today! 🙂

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